TODAY WAS MY FRIEND LUCKY'S FUNERAL. I did not go. Was feeling funereal enough at home with not the right clothes, not ready when I was unexpectedly offered a lift there with less than an hour's notice. And not wanting to face up to her children, who don't know me (though I met her daughter and remember her, I doubt she recalls me).I miss Lucky. I've lost a friend and a sanctuary.
Every now and then I'd spend a long afternoon at her flat, which is way up in the sky. The clock on the wall ticked out time in slow-time, Lucky-time. It always seemed a long, long while but in a good way.
O well; as they say: all good things come to an end.
PS the funeral was delayed over a month in order to conduct an autopsy or coroner's enquiry type thing. I've no idea what they found... All this time she was in a great steel draw in a body-fridge.
That isn't the actual grave (got cremated anyway) but it's what I'd like my grave to look like. I want roses planted on me. If I get burned and anyone wants the ashes, they can have them. Otherwise I'd rather get scattered to the four winds...
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Yes Gleds it's very depressing to lose a friend and to think of her laying in steel drawer for a month even more so. Actually you know it was not "her" right, that her spirit was long gone.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to be trite and mundane now and tell you that Lucky will always "be with you" in spirit.
I am so sorry you lost your friend and sanctuary.
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ReplyDeleteSorry about your loss Gledwood :(
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry; I lost a friend to cancer in March and I was just thinking about her this morning.
ReplyDeleteFunerals are always so sad... :-(
ReplyDeleteMy advice, you know I like giving you advice!
ReplyDeleteHave a celebration of her life where you are.
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So sorry for your loss Gleds. It's always sad when you lose a friend. :(
ReplyDeleteI've always maintained that funerals are actually for the living,they form closure for friends and families after a week or so of tumultuous emotion. I wouldn't have gone to any of my family's funerals if I didn't have to. I prefer to remember them as they were . .my mum walking past my kitchen window before coming in for a cuppa, my Dad pootling around in the garden. My husband being frustratingly badly dressed and always late . . .I feel for you but it all comes to us sooner or later. Don't you be wishing to push up roses anytime soon now!
ReplyDeleteI think Baino's right, we never really say goodbye at funerals, loved ones and friends never leave us, they just take up a bigger part of our hearts.
ReplyDeleteDear Gleds, I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Actually, I agree with Baino, funerals are for the living to get closure. I've found that in the past. It doesn't hurt any less, but it helps ease into acceptance.
ReplyDeleteHere's a hug...